Looking for Boyfriend / Girlfriend?

A friend asked me this question, "What is your purpose in looking boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife?"

What comes up in my mind is "It depends in what stages of life we are in". When we're still teenager even when we're in highschool, having boyfriend/girlfriend is just a sprinkle of sugar on top of your donut.

We like it maybe because it is a new thing occured in our life, it is an exciting adventure, and it fills our emotion with happiness. If you don't store the donut properly, the sugar will melt and may cause your donut turns soggy, which is a bad thing in my opinion.

We see things differently as we're getting more mature. The purpose of looking significant other is to look for partner in life. It is not just for a fling or temporary sweetener in our life. That is the reason it is called significant other.

Without one and another, the main ingredient in our life is missing. As we know, each ingredient has its own function. It becomes part in the composition for a purpose. We cannot say that one is more important than the other regardless the amount. If 1 main ingredient missing, you cannot create what you have planned.

That is why being selfless is crucial to make a relationship works. We should not focus on 'I'. Instead, learn to make everything becomes "We", "Us", and "Ours".