Looking for Boyfriend / Girlfriend?

A friend asked me this question, "What is your purpose in looking boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife?"

What comes up in my mind is "It depends in what stages of life we are in". When we're still teenager even when we're in highschool, having boyfriend/girlfriend is just a sprinkle of sugar on top of your donut.

We like it maybe because it is a new thing occured in our life, it is an exciting adventure, and it fills our emotion with happiness. If you don't store the donut properly, the sugar will melt and may cause your donut turns soggy, which is a bad thing in my opinion.

We see things differently as we're getting more mature. The purpose of looking significant other is to look for partner in life. It is not just for a fling or temporary sweetener in our life. That is the reason it is called significant other.

Without one and another, the main ingredient in our life is missing. As we know, each ingredient has its own function. It becomes part in the composition for a purpose. We cannot say that one is more important than the other regardless the amount. If 1 main ingredient missing, you cannot create what you have planned.

That is why being selfless is crucial to make a relationship works. We should not focus on 'I'. Instead, learn to make everything becomes "We", "Us", and "Ours".

Love Is a Skill

The Bible Says Love Is a Skill
by Rick Warren

Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 1 John 4:7 (NLT)

Love is a skill that can be learned. In other words, it's something you can get good at and that means you get better at love by practicing love.

There is no time better than the Christmas season to practice loving others.You may think you're a good lover, but God wants you to become a great lover, a skilled lover, a master lover. Yet, most people never learn how to love.

You can become an expert at relationships. Wouldn't you like to become known as a person of extraordinary love? When people speak of you they might say: "He doesn't care who you are or what you look like." "She doesn't care where you've been or what you've done or where you're from."The only way you get skilled at something is to practice. You do it over and over.

The first time you do it, it feels awkward, but the more you do it, the better you become.The
same is true with love (1 John 4:7). Let's practice loving each other. As the Bible says, "Practice these things; be committed to them, so that your progress may be evident to all" (1 Timothy 4:15 HCSB).

Practicing Love

This blog is written in response to the devotion "Love Is a Skill" that was posted before this entry.

Yes, I want to be remembered as a person with an extraordinary love rather than the champion of triathlon or a noble winner. In the future, others will break the record and people will forget your name. But being a great lover, you will be remembered in people's hearts.

It seems easy. In reality, it is much more difficult than you can imagine. It takes a lot of practice to become an extraordinary lover, an expert in relationship. Sacrifices need to be made, maybe it's your time, your money, your plans, and your expectations.

The hardest is when we have to do it to people that we don't know really well but we can start to the people close to us at anytime.

The most important thing to be remembered about practicing love is not about taking the credits. It is about how you could touch people's lives and make a better change.